When couples/family members face many issues, generally they try to correct by talking within themselves. When there are many issues, talking may turn into arguments. When it does not work, they try to resolve by approaching the elders or common friends or well-wishers. Though talking to them may resolve some issues, there are many limitations. In the busy life, friends and family have their own problems and may not be listening very carefully and unintentionally end up giving advices that may actually prove more harmful than helpful.
What is right or wrong is highly contextual and untrained people may not be able to understand that. So there is surely a possibility that they can influence you with their personal values and judgments and may take sides. Moreover they can be biased unconsciously because they have preconceived notions about you.
So when these strategies do not work well, relationship is strained further. Thus it is better to meet a counsellor who would help both of you to improve your mental health and problem solving abilities.
When it is done, you will be able to talk within yourselves without turning it to be an argument and solve the issues. So that you don’t become dependent on external sources to solve the issues.